Emotional Intimacy Equals Connection

Why is the perfect relationship so allusive? A relationship that ends, ends because it’s not perfect.

Our pursuit is binary, taking the friendship route or the lover route.

It’s easier to gain a lover than a friend so that’s where we usually start and that’s where it usually ends. If your lover is not your friend you don’t have emotional intimacy, a healthy relationship is not sustainable on sex alone. Sooner or later we bail.

Then we try the friendship route thinking how the lack of such, has doomed pass relationships.

So we build a friendship, many times an emotionally close relationship but are unable to transition to being a couple.

Trying to introduce some sexual tension to a friends only relationship is just about impossible. It’s also awkward and rarely successful.

Whatever route we take, we all have an innate need for friendship and closeness. I am convinced that emotional intimacy is the key to successful long term relationships.

Training for a Spartan Race at 60!

In training for a Spartan Race I am constantly in awe of the capabilities of the human body, mind and spirit. Sure, I had placed in two Classic Physique shows in 2018 but I had not run or trained in this fashion in over 30 years. I started slow, learning to run again and improving my mobility, not wanting to pull a hamstring or tear an achilles. Now at 60 years of age, I can consistently run 2 miles in 20 minutes and handle any combination of sprint intervals. With that I’m targeting May of 2020 for my first Spartan Race.

I will not be denied!

Emotions

Emotions are not good or bad, simply energy in motion. Sometimes poetry, sometimes despair. They can bind us to our past or be our liberation.

Emotions color our world with texture and meaning. Truly the most ancient of all languages.

Emotions were the original iMessage or text. An exchange of messages communicating our wants, needs and desires.

Emotions can renew us or deplete us. So give love, show gratitude, be a source of encouragement!

And Just Like That, I was 60 Years Old!

60 years, that’s halfway home if I’m fortunate enough to being avoid being murdered or becoming an accident victim.

I’m holding up well, not on any medications and every important marker such as BP, VRH, RHR, V02Max, Testosterone, Muscle Mass, Bone Density and Lipids are elite for my age.

Everyone hopes to get to their golden years with their health and the means to do the things they’ve dreamed about.

I never imagined that I would be flying solo at this point in my life but life never goes according to script. It’s good to be flexible, adaptable and teachable.

I’m not sure where home base will be when I retire, it could be stateside or perhaps somewhere along the Mediterranean.

My preference is to be riding tandem, exploring life, old book stores and vintage wineries.

And that’s okay because life is full of rewrites!

My Next Challenge!

After spending the past four years powerlifting and bodybuilding I found myself wondering if I could (turning 60 soon and no serious running in 30 years) run a couple miles in an emergency. So I started jogging and doing sprint intervals on an indoor track and soon I could knock out a 10 minute mile and 24 minute two mile!

I thought, there really is no reason why a 60 year old should not be able to do the same physical tasks that he did in his 20s, albeit a tad slower.

And just like that, I’m training for a Spartan Race!

https://www.spartan.com/en/the-race

Aging Well

Did you know that lifting heavy things and putting them down is the best way for men over 40 to maintain healthy levels of free testosterone and for women to reverse menopausal weight gain and stop bone loss?

Imagine a world in which doctors prescribed strength training. Where employees who maintain healthy weight and blood pressure have reduced medical deductibles.

Did you know that U.S. life expectancy is now declining?

This should be a national emergency!

Four Years Without Being Sick

Five years ago my blood pressure, cholesterol, triglycerides and blood sugar were off the charts. My doctor strongly suggested that I go on statins. I asked him for how long and he said forever because if I went off them that my risk of having a cardiac event would be even higher than if I had never went on statins!

Needless to say, I followed a different path. I decided to transform my body composition, drop body fat from close to 40% to around 10%. I knew that this would decrease my insulin sensitivity and get my metabolism back to normal.

Fast forward to today and I have not even had a sniffle or cough since I began my fitness journey where previously I had at least one bad cold every year. Today my blood pressure, cholesterol, triglycerides and blood sugar are better than normal. My resting heart rate and by heart rate variability (HRV) are at athletic levels. Now I have always lifted weights as well as doing cardio so what have I changed?

I quit using sugar. I now use Stevia for my coffee and baking. I quit eating processed foods and I no longer will eat from at any place that has a drive up window unless I’m traveling. I stopped buying anything that could be microwaved for dinner. In essence, I eat pretty healthy now.

I added these supplements:

Whey Isolate Protein

You should get 1 to 1.2 grams of protein for each pound of bodyweight. If you weigh 150 pounds, you need at least 150 grams of protein a day. Without supplementing, it would take too much chicken, fish, beef or beans to get the protein I need plus I would be getting way too much fat.

Did you know that protein requirements increase as you age but that total calorie requirements decrease?

Protein is required to maintain muscle and bone density. Protein helps to keep you satiated. You want to make sure it’s Isolate as it undergoes more processing, which results in a higher protein content with less carbs, lactose and fat.

Creatine Monohydrate

Creatine is thought to improve strength, increase lean muscle mass, and help the muscles recover more quickly during exercise. This muscular boost may help athletes achieve bursts of speed and energy, especially during short bouts of high-intensity activities such as weight lifting or sprinting. Creatine may improve cognitive processing in older adults:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21394604

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/what-is-creatine

BASIS (Nicotinamide Riboside & Pterostilbene)

I take Basis from Elysium, it helps to increase your levels of NAD+ which in turn helps to maintain healthy Mitochondrial.

https://www.elysiumhealth.com/en-us/basis/how-basis-works

Krill Oil: Krill oil is a sustainable source of omega-3s which contains EPA and DHA and is linked to improved cardiovascular health.

Ashwagandha

Ashwagandha is a herb long used in Ayurveda medicine. It’s an adaptogen that helps your body stay in tune so to speak.
https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/12-proven-ashwagandha-benefits

Collagen (Type 1 & 3)

Our bodies stop producing Collagen in our 20s, lots of benefits.

To summarize, I lost 70 pounds, added a few supplements to my diet and seem to no longer get sick. I even tested this by being around co-workers who come to work ill when they should stayed home. Once upon a time, this was a for sure few sick days for me.

Stay Healthy my Friends!