Why is the perfect relationship so allusive? A relationship that ends, ends because it’s not perfect.
Our pursuit is binary, taking the friendship route or the lover route.
It’s easier to gain a lover than a friend so that’s where we usually start and that’s where it usually ends. If your lover is not your friend you don’t have emotional intimacy, a healthy relationship is not sustainable on sex alone. Sooner or later we bail.
Then we try the friendship route thinking how the lack of such, has doomed pass relationships.
So we build a friendship, many times an emotionally close relationship but are unable to transition to being a couple.
Trying to introduce some sexual tension to a friends only relationship is just about impossible. It’s also awkward and rarely successful.
Whatever route we take, we all have an innate need for friendship and closeness. I am convinced that emotional intimacy is the key to successful long term relationships.